How to Know What You Want

Sometimes, it's hard to figure it out. Here's how to do it.

Happy Valentine’s Day! I hope your heart gets each of its desires. Speaking of desires — in life, love, careers, and elsewhere — it be can hard to know exactly what we want.

For my sex column, I wrote a piece called How to Get Laid and Paid. (Separately, of course.) Skills needed to achieve better pay at work resemble skills needed to achieve a better love life at home. I wrote:

It’s worth noting the behaviors that make your genitals frown could also decrease your paycheck. I’m not going to explain why you might suck in bed. Quite the opposite; I want you to have a better sex life. And you deserve more money. Whether you wish to be properly paid or laid, the secret could lie with improving your ability to negotiate for yourself.

It all comes down to skills. As a special announcement, exactly two weeks from today, on February 28, I’m going to give it to you. I’m launching a suite of online classes, free resources, and other goodies to help you level up. If you are a free subscriber to the Tiny, Private Love Letter, this is your heads up. Tell me what you want. What would you like to see, hear, and/or learn? A colleague at my firm, Jackie, put together the quick survey so you can tell us anonymously. This is your chance to have a say in what you get.

Of course the Tiny, Private Love Letter’s paid subscribers should take the survey, too. On February 28th, you’ll receive a welcome kit with extra goodies. For now, here’s your copy of the piece I mentioned earlier and a couple other tips.